Suggesting that this pronoun nitwittery is not woke politics is the epidome of intellectual dishonesty. Suggesting that one needs to be a linguist, or claim to be on Wikipedia, to have a worthy opinion on the topic is asinine. I only referenced Peterson here, because some other bloke went tangiental and furthered the myth that he's some manner of biggot. He's not, and anyone claiming he is has not looked into the things he's actually said. I'm not claiming Peterson is the be all and end all of every discussion. However, his position on this issue is not absolutely only relevant to the matter at large, and as to how it might affect us here. Naturally, it's easier to just dismiss that with the lies and false claims of biggotry and recklessly put his credentials as an academic in question.
As to our community's need to address this matter once again there really is none. We play under user names, concealing our real identities from each other. Our actual name, sex, location, age, preferences, hobbies, musical acumen, diet, and so on are utterly irrelevant to the nature of playing Diplomacy. Some guy here actually calls himself GOD. Yes, I just assumed his sex. However, after several years of doing this along with everyone else here, theat layer has raised no objections to this, and for the sake an ease of communication, I've proceded with this assumption just as I would with anyone else in a predominately (to the virtual point of exclusionary) male community. If this player or any other were to mention to us that their real name was Beth, and wanted to be called she for some reason, I think to a person, would readily do so. No one would call for an investigation to determine Beth's name, biological body parts, or preferences to that effect. We would simply see that a member chose to share more personal information with some or all of us.
If someone was referring to me as a female, user word like she and her, I might point out that I am a male if I had enough time to do so and cared enough to correct it. If said person were doing this to insult me, I'd consider it rather juvenile, and ignore it. If that behavior passed to the community as a whole, I might update my profile page with something noting my real name or that I wished it to be known that I'm male.
I cannot imagine any current, former, or future member of this community going out of their way to ridicule another member. Neither could I forsee this community accepting that behavior. We're simply not that kind of place. the suggestion that we are is insulting in itself, as is the notion that we need to change to address some whimsically constructed fantasy episode of bigotry can be proactively prevented.
Each player at VDiplomacy has a profile page where it is possible, as many have already done, to share additional information. There is not a specific prefered pronouns entry box , but there is more than adequate space to customize any additional information one wishes to disclose. One could even list their social media contact information there for more information. However, VDiplomacy is *not* a social media platform, and we should not seek to make it one. We are a gaming site. Let's focus on game, and not social engineering. People on gaming sites frequently engage in the use of alter egos, pseudonyms, and creative personas. It's all part of the game for them. Mixing sexual preference and identity in such an environment is a risky proposition, but a choice left to us individually. Choices have consequences of both benefit and illness. Most of us understand that sharing personal information with complete strangers is a bad idea. And suggesting that those of us who simply wish to game, and make an absolutely reasonable assumption of sexual identitiy based upon a 99% plus male membership *and* predominately male referenced user name/avatars, are biggots or otherwise insensitive is insanity.
We have yet to figure out how to address the integrity of the gamers who play here on simple level of trusting them to play only one nation in a game, or not to multibox/account, or not to join games for the sole intention of sabotaging them. This has been going on for a decade here, and there are simple solutions to those problems. There are no simple solutions to the sex identity/pronoun suggestions raised in this thread.